Why Men Leave...

In this post I will continue to touch on the subject of why men leave. The reasons behind this are as varied, and you cannot explain it all in one post. But I will try to shed some long needed light on the subject. Not only will you be able to understand why men leave, you will also be able to understand what you can do to keep him and whether or not he is worth being with in the first place!

First of all ladies, just like Steve Harvey says ALL the time, we men are simple creatures. We want to capture it, eat it and talk about the conquest to other men. That's what we do, and you ladies are all part of the conquest. Whether or not the conquest happens is entirely up to you, and in many cases you ladies have made the conquest far too easy!

You make it too easy by giving the man what he wants too early in the relationship. Because early in the relationship all we men really want is the sex. That's it! That's what starts the whole ball rolling. I'm sure that you realize that we didn't start talking to you because we thought that you had a beautiful mind. We are attracted to you on the PHYSICAL first! The mental, emotional and all that other stuff comes later.

But because you ladies have been giving us what we want too early in the relationship, we have had no reason to find out just how wonderful you really are. if you really want a man to stick around and REALLY get to know you, make him wait. That's right I said it! MAKE HIM WAIT! The longer a man waits for something the more he will appreciate it! Also ladies if a man sticks around, this will let you know that his actions are really heartfelt.

Its been said a thousand times and I'm going to say it here. "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!" That's a pretty powerful statement. But it's true. This is the statement that should be going through a woman's mind when she meets that potential beau. If on the first date the man greets her at her home with flowers, then this is the first in many actions that SHE SHOULD EXPECT! I don't mean to keep quoting Steve Harvey but he is right when he said that, " Chivalry is not dead, it's just not expected anymore."

You women have the most powerful body part on the planet and most of you don't know what to do with it. You have to expect a certain kind of treatment from a man or he will treat you any kind of way. And if you let the man know from the beginning that you are going to expect certain things from him then you have put the ball in his park. A man that really and truly wants to be with you FOR REAL, will wait and perform those chivalrous things that you expect. He will also keep doing them, LONG after you guys have been intimate with each other.

If you want a perfect example of what a woman is and does and expects, you have no further to look than your own grandmother's. If your grandmother is still alive, ask her about the whole courting process that took place in her day. This courting process is a lost art. Everything nowadays revolves around DATING. Do you know the difference? Courting was a long involved process where the man and the woman got to know each other over a long period of time. This allowed the women to know whether or not if she wanted to be involved with the man. And vice versa. The man had to do everything that the woman wanted to prove to her that he was worthy.

You know what dating is? Just like it sounds, a date. It's not a long involved process. It's one night out where the man expects sex for the money he spends. There is no respect. No chivalry. But there can be if the women of today demanded it. That's what has to happen ladies. If you guys demanded chivalry nowadays, then there would be a lot less of the nonsense going on today.

There would be a lot less single motherhood. A lot less baby mama drama. There would be more weddings and less child support. More wives and less baby mamas. As you can see ladies, you have the Power, you just have to use it! Some of you ladies might say that, "...the man will leave if I make him wait too long!" you know what i say! Let him leave! If a man really wants to be with you, he will wait for you. no matter how long it takes! Don't be in such a rush to give him what he wants. Make him wait. In the long run, he will appreciate you and you will appreciate him!